I’m not a relationship guru. But I do teach yoga for partners. Over the years I’ve learned some things. Love is such an interesting energy. Relationships can become strained over time, and people can most certainly grow apart. Me…I’m people. I am divorced and currently in a bit of a confusing relationship if I’m being honest. I share that because becoming a more grounded version of yourself doesn’t erase the tensions that come with closeness. All of this is to become the woman you wish to be while experiencing the challenges of life and interpersonal conflicts between you and the one you are choosing to love and choosing to let love you.

Between the him vs her podcasts and independent instagram advisors there are some silent moments it is just you and your thoughts. I suppose I could turn all of this into a ridiculously entertaining reel but reading takes time…intention…presence. Much like our relationships. You can’t scan and scroll your way into intimacy. I can’t teach you how to be less volatile. I can’t promise you your partner will agree that your practice has inspired positive change or that they will value it. I can’t promise you’ll feel as connected to them or attracted once you begin really doing the work. Because once you begin living in the present moment, letting go of the fantasy type thoughts you may find that who you were to them and who they are to you is something different. At the same time you can find yourself in a really tender space of compassion and devotion to loving from a place of balance and ensuring who has trusted YOU with their heart experiences the best version of your most accountable and self reflective self.

Here are a few benefits of how yoga and meditation can help us as women be better lovers

Emotional balance: You can respond calm instead of chaotic.

Self-awareness: You call yourself out before you call them out. Accountability = grown woman energy.

Patience & compassion: You actually listen to understand, not to win the argument. Major upgrade. Wife type life.

Body connection: You move with confidence, love your curves, and radiate that magnetic “I’m ready for you” energy.

Presence: You’re not distracted, you’re locked in. Every moment feels deeper, realer, better. Alexa play Goapele Closer!

Conflict clarity: You see the drama coming a mile away and handle it with grace, not grenades.

Energy renewal: You rest and recharge because burnout isn’t sexy.

Authenticity: You show up as the real you unfiltered, grounded, and impossible to fake.

Asana that helps libido flow

This pose increases blood flow to the pelvis, eases stress, and awakens the parasympathetic nervous system helping you feel more relaxed, open, and embodied. Parter it with deep breathing to reconnect with your sensual energy in a calm, nourishing way.

I love downward facing dog. Here is a version using a chair before you take your palms down to the floor.

Set up your space:
Place a sturdy chair (no wheels) against a wall so it won’t slide. Or put your chair on a yoga mat. Trust me don’t wear socks.

Position yourself:
Stand facing the chair, about one arm’s length away. Place your hands on the seat, shoulder-width apart.

Walk your feet back:
Step your feet backward until your body forms an “L” shape — hips stacked over ankles, spine long, and arms straight.

Adjust your stance:
Keep your feet hip-width apart and press your palms evenly into the chair. Let your chest melt gently toward the floor, lengthening your back.

Engage your breath:
Inhale deeply through your nose, feeling your ribs expand. Exhale slowly, relaxing your neck and shoulders.

Hold for 5–10 breaths:
Focus on how the stretch opens your back, shoulders, and hamstrings — releasing tension and improving circulation.

Come out slowly:
Walk your feet toward the chair and roll up one vertebra at a time, letting your head come up last.

Hope this helps ladies! Now go love on yourself and give your bae the best, lightest heart, easiest to laugh, most rested and ready version of you.

xoxo